We’re Not Alone: How Sharing and Sensitivity Strengthen Ourselves and Community
Question: I hear about families in our community going through difficult periods—financial struggles, health issues, or other personal challenges. Often, I think, “wow, I had no idea!” It seems that many people tend to keep their lives and feelings to themselves. Do you think people should open up more, or is it better to keep certain matters private? • Aharon Schmidt replies, from the Living Jewish’s Farbrengen column • Read More
Question:
I hear about families in our community going through difficult periods—financial struggles, health issues, or other personal challenges. Often, I think, “wow, I had no idea!” It seems that many people tend to keep their lives and feelings to themselves. Do you think people should open up more, or is it better to keep certain matters private?
Answer:
Sharing our feelings and life circumstances is a powerful way to create connection and foster genuine relationships. When we open up about how we feel, whether it’s joy, sadness, stress, or uncertainty, we invite others into our world. This sharing allows the other person to feel connected to us, and we feel a sense of connection to them.
So too, when we share the challenges we are facing. Vulnerability is often the gateway to empathy, understanding, and support. When someone learns about our struggles, it deepens the bond between us and creates opportunities for help and encouragement.
In today’s world, technology has made it easier to live more isolated. People can work from home, shop online, handle banking, and manage many aspects of life without leaving the house. While convenient, this reduction in face-to-face interaction can make people accustomed to limited social contact and even lead them to feel that they don’t need it.
However, we are inherently social beings, and social connection is essential for our well-being. Even small acts of sharing—listening to someone’s story or revealing a personal feeling—can bring a sense of joy, relief, belonging and connection.
Equally important is being aware of those around us. Many times, we live in our own world and are not fully cognizant of others’ feelings and challenges. Noticing someone’s facial expression, behaviors, body language, or tone and simply asking, “how are you doing?” can make a profound difference.
Yosef HaTzadik is an amazing example of this sensitivity. While imprisoned in the dungeon in Egypt and facing his own challenges, he still noticed that the Chief Butler and Chief Baker were feeling down. Similarly, in our daily lives, we need to pause and observe others, offering attention and care whenever possible.
Connection works both ways: sharing our experiences and noticing those of others. Not only does it strengthen community, but also reminds us that none of us are truly alone.
Aharon Schmidt is a relationship coach specializing in marriage and shidduchim, drawing on years of experience to guide couples and individuals toward fulfilling relationships.
For more information: www.aharonschmidt.com
To receive periodic ideas on navigating marriage and personal growth, reach out to: [email protected]
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