“There are women in […] who go without a head covering, and some who consider marrying a bearded Bochur as the biggest issue” ● “How great is the darkness that one of the parents writes to me, that the reason for this is – because they hold of Pnimiyus and not Chitzoniyus'” ● “Truth be told, that the only reason I see for the fierce opposition to studying in Beis Yaakov is the lack of willingness to accept their dress codes, etc.” ● A sharp letter from the Rebbe decrying the sorry state of Tznius
In a letter dated 14th of Cheshvan 5716, the Rebbe writes to Rabbi Shneur Zalman Garelik OBM, Chief Rabbi of Kfar Chabad, regarding the creation of Beis Rivkah in Kfar Chabad. During those years, the girls would study in a religious school nearby which was not Hareidi, and the results were seen in Kfar Chabad. In his letter the Rebbe decries the delay in opening a school, discusses the sorry situation and writes (Emphasis added):
… With regards to the present time, it is for the benefit of the girls that -as soon as possible- they should begin studying in Beis Yaakov schools in Jerusalem, Bnei Brak or Tel Aviv, despite all the qualms you mention in your letter. Although it is possible that the school the girls currently attend is good, you surely know the words of the Rebbe Maharash ‘If good is good, is better not better?!”
And at the current situation it is mandatory that the girls should receive the best possible education, and maybe there is a chance [for imporvement]; for whomever looks at the current situation with clear vision, sees the negative changes that took place recently. For example, there are women in Kfar Chabad who go without a head covering, and some who consider marrying a bearded Bochur as the biggest issue (not to mention the hanging out, which I hear has recently stopped), etc. etc.
And those that claim, that since I don’t write anything about it, it means that I agree with it – is not connected to reality, and has no basis in human intellect. Although in the old country [Russia] there was a certain Kelipah and the way of behaving and combating that Kelipah was in a certain way, today in your place the Nisyonos are completely different, and -in a certain sense- greater… Truth be told, that the only reason I see for the fierce opposition to studying in Beis Yaakov is the lack of willingness to accept their dress codes, etc. And probably the mothers are more at fault than their daughters. How great is the darkness that one of the parents writes to me, that the reason for this is – because they hold of Pnimiyus and not Chitzoniyus. And he wants to convince me that the reason for refusing to go to Beis Yaakov is because “the girls are so Pnimiyus’dik that they can’t handle Chitzoniyus!”
Now you can understand my surprise upon reading your letter in which you state that the reason girls refuse to go to Beis Yaakov in Bnei Brak is because there is a club nearby, and it is close by to the Ponovezh Yeshiva. Do you really believe that this is the reason why the girls refuse to go to Beis Yaakov?!