Hadar Mizrachi, Beis Moshiach
Much has been written about the difference between men and women. Today, everyone knows that we women are an impressive system of multitasking. Even after returning from her day at work, she doesn’t stop the flow of activities – making dinner while thinking about the children’s sandwiches for tomorrow and the need to send a message to a friend to call and inquire about her mother.
Is it any wonder then that “in the merit of righteous women the Redemption will come”?
However, it turns out that when there is a need to get organized to leave the house, the male one-dimensionalism (about which we haven’t spoken at length) reveals itself to be super effective.
Men simply get up and go out – period. While it’s not clear how they do this, it’s also true that they have no need to grab a broom and give the floor a quick sweep in order to leave the house spic-and-span. Their conscience doesn’t work extra hours if the cushions on the living room sofa aren’t arranged as they should be before going out. It gives one cause to consider the fact that they don’t have the slightest question whether it would be appropriate to change their shirt to a different color. Oh, by the way — something else important to note is that they don’t put on make-up.
It’s interesting how such instances demonstrate the ultimate opposing forces existing in the viewpoints between men and women. Getting organized to leave the house is one of the most prominent.
Even as a young girl, I remember myself standing at the foot of the steps to our house together with my father and brother, while we impatiently waited for my mother to join us and then we could finally set out on our long-awaited vacation… Suddenly, we heard the sound of a vacuum cleaner from the upstairs apartment… I never understood this craziness, until I got married and revealed to my surprise that I act in the same manner.
Thus, ladies, the magazine’s editorial staff has recruited us today to meet this challenge! Nu, what do you say? So, what do we do? How do we bring together these two totally different viewpoints on matters of time?
Here are a few ideas for you that I have collected based on the inspiring teachings of our holy Torah.
“Everything has an appointed season, and there is a time for every matter under the heaven” (Koheles 3:1): At the moment that you are expected to organize yourself within a limited period of time, try and think only about what is demanded from you now. Make a distinction between those things that can wait and those that can’t. Do only what is most urgent and ignore the need to be perfect. This will also help you in implementing other projects.
Time does its part: Take responsibility. Learn how much time you need to carry our certain activities in organizing yourself and estimate the schedule accordingly – in a responsible and realistic manner. (For example, ten minutes for make-up, ten minutes to get dressed.) Set a time for leaving the house and consider how long you need to get ready. (For example, if you have to leave at two in the afternoon, and you realize that you need half an hour to organize yourself, get started at one-thirty.)
“Servants of time are servants of servants; only a servant of G-d is free.” (Rabbi Yehuda HaLevi): Try to consider practicing punctuality as part of your Avodas Hashem. Challenge yourself; even give yourself a prize for excellence if you meet the goal.
Your word is your bond: Make a good resolution to be more prompt. This is by no means an easy demand, and it requires some very profound thought to such a commitment. Similarly, you can examine deep patterns existing with you and try to improve them.
“Two are better than one” (Koheles 4:9): Have your husband join you in the challenge. Make him a part of your strength to succeed in this mission. When you are dealing with the matter together, it’s far easier to win. Accept tips from him on how to do only one thing at one moment – and share them with us as well!
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