You Aren’t Here To Educate Your Spouse!
What is the purpose of a Shiduch? Are you supposed to “educate” your spouse? or maybe take him/her for what they are? ● A fascinating answer from the Rebbe to a girl who wrote her issues with her Chosson ● Read More
Participants in the Rotztein-Beneich wedding, which took place last week in Paris, were treated to a fascinating 60-page Teshura, including tens of answers of the Rebbe in various topics, among them an answer from the Rebbe to a girl who had issues with her Chosson (Free Translation):
“Regarding the qualms you write about, etc. – it is best to avoid any argument in this matter.
It is clearly understood, that the purpose of a Shiduch is not at all to “educate” the other etc. and to change him, rather the opposite is true – to respect him and obviously his opinions and outlook on life,
After all, that is exactly the way you want him to treat you and your outlook on life.”
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