Written by Moshe L.
Before I relate the story and state my opinion, I would like to clarify that I am not a Rabbi and will not state a Halachic opinion, only relate the experience, my thoughts, and finally, the decision I made, with which I am quite content.
So, I recently moved into a new community that some would call an “open” community. Besides this, people are very welcoming, so we made friends very easily.
After a couple of months, one day as I signed into my Facebook account, I saw a new friend request from Mrs. E. C.
I thought that was quiet strange, since from the little I had gathered she seemed to be quite a Frum women, but then again, we do live in strange world. I mean, is this a common phenomenon these days, faced by many?
For a number of days, I mulled over whether I should accept. On the one hand if I did, it seemed so inappropriate, however if I refused, it would be obviously apparent and would greatly offend Mrs E.C.
Of course, I consulted with my Rav/Mapshpia and had an honest conversation with my wife as to how she and I should/would feel about it.
I will not share with the readers the result of both of those discussions, as I think everyone should speak to their own Rav and soulmate.
A few days later, I happened to notice on my Facebook page a note showing that “Mendy C. (a close friend of mine) has become friends with Mrs. C.A”.
Strangely enough, seeing this one sentence brought great clarity on this sensitive issue. That sentence and what it implied seemed so inappropriate that it immediately became clear to me what my decision would be.
Oh, and Mrs. E.C. is still quite friendly with our family…